The prospect and challenge of meeting someone new, and seeing where it could lead, was an exhilarating feeling that often fuelled my pursuit of several women simultaneously.
Below are 10 helpful tips that will make your next date worthwhile.
1). Pick an open location
This is always a very important factor to consider when setting up a date. There is absolutely no reason why a first date should be in the living room, His or hers.
This sends the wrong message to both as it tells him/her that you are entirely too comfortable too soon.
Also, having your first date in such an enclosed and private location can distract you both from the real talk, because it either he is thinking of getting close or she is thinking about what might be going on through his mind.
Come to think of it, if you spend the first date on the couch, where will you spend the second? Yea…your guess is good as mine.
2). Be Time Conscious
I do not think one needs to be told this. We all know that the later the hour the more relaxed and distracted you become making it especially hard to pay attention to detail, which is imperative on a first date.
Also, its always good to do dates earlier in the day. It allows you more time to think and gives room for a back up plan, if the original date plan turns out a boring session.
It also gives you the opportunity to add another activity to the date that wasn't originally planned.
3). Dress decently but sexy too.
Women look out for style and Men are visual. Your look can either be a setback to the date or a huge way of getting your date on without even having to say anything yet.
What we see often determines the first thing we think. So, remember to dress appropriately and Yes, be sexy!
Don't let it all out at once, Leave something for the imagination to feed on; guessing is good as it adds to the intrigue.
4). No Job Interviews.
The questions you ask on a first date are equally important. A date is supposed to be that time when you both can feel comfortable and talk, not a job interview. Yes, it is right to ask questions but wrong to dwell on irrelevant ones.
Questions such as "Where do you work?" "How much do you make?" "What are your future plans?" can be a huge turn off to a lot of people, it kills the excitement, the thrill and leaves no room for a more fun discussion. No one likes to be bombarded with a ton of questions during a first encounter. There is a lot more you can get to know through a Cultivating conversation.
5). Have and show the right Attitude.
Believe it or not men are often nervous on first dates, so smile, be approachable. He is busy trying to make a good first impression, so throw him a bone [unless, of course, he's a dog.]
6). Don't get too relaxed or comfortable.
Don't become too comfortable. No sensual touching or hugging and cuddling on the first date. Men, mostly will test you in this to see how far they can get , and this is just a measure of how easy it will be to get you in bed.
We all have what we like or want in the opposite sex and sometimes when we see people who have this attributes, we tend to get carried away by this things.
On a first date, it is important that you are not blinded by his charm and her beauty. It clouds your thought to the more important things and that affects your judgement.
7). No talk about marriage
We get to a point in our lives when we just want to settle into the big thing, we are already envisaging the bigger picture, so we always hoped each date was the real thing .
Let me say this to you, people always go on dates for different reasons, and so its necessary that you take it slow and let the motives unveil gradually. , maybe your last dates didn't lead anywhere just because your got too serious and has it all planned out already.
No one wants to feel rushed and it is necessary to take it easy as too serious and intimate conversation can potentially scare him /her off.
8). Let's Talk About Sex.
Even if you had made up your mind to go into a relationship with him, talking about sex should not just a first date topic.
Your conversation tells a lot about where your mind is, revealing a piece of your character. Men mostly observe this and act accordingly. Conversation goes a long way in creating the perceptions of the mind; don't ever forget that.
9). Handle your Insecurities well.
It is always best that you show a certain level of confidence on a first date. Been confident is a defensive mode against wrong signals.
Insecurity is either a turn on or a turn off, either way you lose. It is important to be sure of yourself and to project that. Confidence is contagious but the absence of it cannot be hidden. Be confident in who you are! Everyone finds confidence attractive.
10). Go home early and ALONE!
We are all adults and have the right to do what we please with our bodies, but when looking to establish a healthy relationship, sex on the first date is not the way to go. If you as a lady give him all of you on the first date, he will get the wrong signals, and may not come back as he has no incentive to pursue you. Every Woman deserves to be pursued.
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